“We have all been placed on this earth to discover our own path, and we will never be happy if we live someone else’s idea of life.” ~ James Van Praagh …
James is right on the money here: we will never find fulfillment in our lives if we look for it in places that are never meant for us. If we live our lives based on what others expect of us and from us, we will find ourselves lost. That is because someone else’s idea of happiness, purpose, and meaning in life, defines their authentic self, and not necessarily ours. Searching out our own paths and journeys in life is the only way to become complete and whole.
Of course, there are some things that are expected of us–following laws, cooperating with others, and acting in set ways in certain situations. These expectations are meant to be helpful in guiding us in moral, just, and righteous ways so that we do not harm others or ourselves. Beyond them, however, living up to others expectations is usually more harmful than good. Conforming to stereotypes, accepting unfair judgments of others, mistreating others, or living in ways that do not represent who we really are, all serve to make us smaller than we were meant to be.
The idea we are presented with here was also proposed to us in a similar manner in the words by Robert Frost, “I took the road less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.” In his poem, Frost did not say that it made his life easy; nor did he propose there were no difficulties on the road he took. Rather, he simply implied that he was able to live his own idea of life rather than the idea that other people might have had in mind for him.
It is often true, that the roads that are most constantly traveled are devoid of life. The soil gets trampled down so tightly that nothing can grow there, thus our journeys on those roads are not nearly as rich as they would be on those we find on our own. Find the path in life that leads to the best version of you possible.
Focus on your unique path in life.
Questions to consider:
Why do we often try so hard to live up to the expectations of others?
What does discovering your own path in life mean to you? How might you go about doing so more effectively?
Have you seen any indications that your own unique path may deviate from the path that you are on right now?
For further thought:
“Sometimes the bad things that happen in our lives put us directly on the path to the most wonderful things that will ever happen to us.” ~ Nicole Reed, Ruining You