Monthly Archives: August 2013

Communicate With Yourself

“To set us on a clear path, it is important to communicate well, at least with ourselves–to know what we want, to know what we mean, and to learn to express ourselves clearly, with as little confusion as possible. If you are confused about yourself, you can expect to be misunderstood by those around you. You have to set your mind straight, and that is a task that no one else can undertake for you.” – Rosemary Altea

Communication is a skill that few of us have developed strongly. We tend to believe that because we know what we’re trying to get across, others will understand also–even though we often aren’t completely sure just what we want to communicate. And when we’re communicating with ourselves, it’s especially important that we do so clearly and precisely.
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Love And Forgive Thyself

“Be gentle with yourself, learn to love yourself, to forgive yourself, for only as we have the right attitude toward ourselves can we have the right attitude toward others.” – Wilferd Arlan Peterson

I knew someone once who was really down on himself all the time. He constantly criticized himself and his actions, and I do not remember ever hearing him say something good about himself. He always used to wonder why people did no want to be around him, though to me it was pretty clear–he treated other people in the same ways he treated himself. He criticized them and cut them down, had great expectations of them and became very disappointed with them if they did not meet his expectations. His kids did not like to share anything with him, and they avoided him as often as they could.
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Unlock Your Potentials

“A lot of people are waiting for Martin Luther King or Mohandas Gandhi to come back — but they are gone. We are it. It is up to us. It is up to you.” – Marian Wright Edelman

There have been many human beings who have been able to bring hope to others. They have lived their lives trying to right wrongs and bring justice to the world, and then they have passed on. And when they do pass on, their passing leaves us in a kind of paralysis, a state in which we are sort of frozen, waiting for someone else to come along and thaw us.
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Possibility And Potential

“We are always surrounded by doors of opportunity. That’s the way life is. Often, opportunities do not come in packages wrapped in the colors we expected. When an unexpected surprise happens, we refuse to see it and so we miss the opportunity. Sometimes we are so focused on a goal far out in the future that we do not see what is right in front of us, or we get so busy hurrying and rushing around that we lose all perspective.” – Anne Wilson Schaef

Possibility and potential–this day and every day are full of both of them. The number of opportunities that we have in our lives is amazing, yet most of us rarely see even a small percentage of the opportunities that life throws our way. There are of course the obvious opportunities such as having the air we breathe and the food we eat to keep us alive, but there are many other opportunities that are just so unexpected that we never even see them. They come our way only to be ignored like a twenty-dollar bill laying under a leaf. It’s there, but the leaf blocks our vision so that we don’t see it and can’t take advantage of it.

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Prayer Is Connection With A Higher Power

“The minds of people are so cluttered up with everyday living these days that they don’t, or won’t, take time out for a little prayer–for mental cleansing, just as they take a bath for a physical, outer cleaning. Both are necessary.” – Jo Ann Carlson

Somehow or another, prayer becomes some sort of a chore as we grow up. It’s something that our parents make us do, and because it’s usually highly formalized, it has little appeal to young people, who instinctively know better, I think–they know that the more we formalize anything, the less personal and valuable it becomes.
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Let Your Past Help Your Present

“We are well advised to keep on nodding terms with the people we used to be, whether we find them attractive company or not…. We forget all too soon the things we thought we could never forget.” – Joan Didion

I used to be a lot different than I am now. And I can honestly say that the person I was five years ago definitely wasn’t the same person I was fifteen years ago. I live, I learn, I change. And as I go on living, I somehow keep on forgetting lessons that I learned before, and I find that I have to make some of the same mistakes, sometimes worse and sometimes not as bad as before, just to relearn lessons that I’ve already “learned.”

How annoying is that?
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You Can Be More Glorious Than You Are

“The greatest thing is, at any moment, to be willing to give up who we are in order to become all that we can be.” – Max De Pree

How simple it is to keep going on in the same ways in order to avoid the unknown, and the different, the changes that life offers us all the time. Most of us get to liking who we are, if for no other reason than it is pretty safe and comfortable. And we ignore the cognitive dissonance when it arrives, causing tension between what we are and what we know we could be if we were to take a few risks and make some important changes. We argue that in the turbulent oceans of life, it is often easier for us to remain on shore, as an observer, than to hoist the sails and ride the winds.
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