“The one who does not get fun and enjoyment out of every day in which he lives, needs to reorganize his life. And the sooner the better, for pure enjoyment throughout life has more to do with one’s happiness and efficiency than almost any other single element.” ~ George Matthew Adams …
Each day we are alive, we determine the reality that we experience by choosing the attitudes we embrace–fun and enjoyment in life is simply a presence of being or a state of mind that we embrace. Thus, if we are not getting fun and enjoyment out of life, it is through no fault but our own. And perhaps we are ok with this, for some of us are doing the best that we know how and are fine with what we are getting out of life. However, if at any time we come to find that we want to live happier and more fulfilling lives, we have the ability to make those necessary changes in our lives, in our attitudes, in our perceptions, and in our hearts.
Life is meant to be enjoyed–we are essentially here to learn, to grow, and to have fun in responsible ways. Why, then, do so many of us cease enjoying the experience of being human? Maybe it is partly because we receive missed messages in life about acting our age and having fun, or we feel we have no time available in our lives to have fun or experience enjoyment. Or perhaps we have come to associate fun with the spending of money, and we have a hard time parting with it or find ourselves short on expendable income. Regardless of the cause, it is important for us to recognize that fun and enjoyment do not have to be the kind of fun you have driving a go-cart or playing volleyball on the beach on a sunny day. Believe it or not, we can have fun at work–we merely have to make the choice to be in that state of mind. And since work is often very stressful, we should make time to rest and relax to relieve that stress. On the other hand, sometimes things are not fun and we continue to force them upon ourselves or put ourselves in those situations. In this case, we should simply make the choice not to do so.
Personally, I have found that there are two ways to get more fun out of life: look at what I am doing through different eyes, or change what I am doing. Nearly anything can be fun if we approach it from a perspective that allows it to be so. The intense workouts of my freshmen year of high school football, and getting smashed by the much larger seniors, was not much fun at all. In fact, there were times when I felt like just giving up… and during those times, I had to make an attitude adjustment. I reminded myself that there were plenty of people around me who were doing the exact same things that I was doing, and they were having fun at it, so there was no reason at all that I could not have fun as well.
When we have fun with our work, our work turns out better. When we have fun helping our children with their homework, we both benefit from a stronger relationship. Changing our attitudes to “how can I make this fun?” can bring about a profound change in our lives.
Find a task today that you normally do not find fun, and attempt to have fun completing it.
Questions to consider:
During which projects or jobs do you have no fun? Why not? Is there a way to possibly make them fun?
Why is fun so important in our lives?
Why are kids able to have much more fun than we are, even though we have many more freedoms and opportunities than they do?
For further thought:
“While ideas such as discipline and focus are undeniably important, so is the idea of having fun. With a small amount of effort, we can extract all the fun and joy out of most parts of our lives–our relationships, our work, even our leisure time. We can put so many restrictions and should’s on everything we do that our very lives become dull, overly ponderous, and routine. Before long, we find ourselves living up to a set of rules–and we’re not certain where the rules came from or whose they are. Let yourself go. Have a little fun with life. Or, have a lot of fun with life. If you’ve spent years being extremely disciplined, reliable, and somber, maybe part of achieving balance is having a decade of fun.” ~ Melody Beattie, More Language of Letting Go