“We can never untangle all the woes in other people’s lives. We cannot produce miracles overnight. But we can bring a cup of cool water to a thirsty soul, or a scoop of laughter to a lonely heart.” ~ Barbara Johnson …
Life is about helping others. It is about being there for our brothers and sisters when they need us, and them being there when we need them as well. But as compassionate individuals, it can sometimes be difficult to discern just how much help we are obliged to give to others. I know many individuals who feel it their duty to stop at nothing but to solve the problems of others completely. Of course, they have the best of intentions, but most problems require at least some level of effort from the individual facing them.
When dealing with problems in our lives, a small measure of change is generally required from us. And change cannot come from without, it must come from inside us, and it will only come to us when we are ready for it. This often makes “untangling the woes in other people’s lives” a futile endeavor, for it may take years for them to embrace the necessary change within. However, what we can always do is be there for them while they are dealing with the issues by bringing “a cup of cool water to their soul and a scoop of laughter to their lonely heart”–by helping to heal their mind, heart, body, and spirit.
We all face problems in our lives… even those we love dearly. Yet it is not our duty to solve the problems of others; it is our duty to help them to heal so that they can have the best opportunity to face the issues they need to face to experience real growth from within. For what we really need in life is someone who can be there by our side to help us when we fall and to let us know that we are never alone.
Be completely present for those who need you in their life.
Questions to consider:
Do we generally feel that compassion requires us to cure the woes of others?
How can we bring laughter and support to those in need?
Who are the friends you look for in life? Are they people who will solve your problems for you… or people who will always be there with by your side when you face difficulties in life?
For further thought:
“The truest help we can render afflicted people is not to take their burdens from them, but to call out their best energy, that they may be able to bear the burden.” ~ Phillips Brooks