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Be Completely Present For Those Who Need You In Their Life

“We can never untangle all the woes in other people’s lives. We cannot produce miracles overnight. But we can bring a cup of cool water to a thirsty soul, or a scoop of laughter to a lonely heart.” ~ Barbara Johnson …

Life is about helping others. It is about being there for our brothers and sisters when they need us, and them being there when we need them as well. But as compassionate individuals, it can sometimes be difficult to discern just how much help we are obliged to give to others. I know many individuals who feel it their duty to stop at nothing but to solve the problems of others completely. Of course, they have the best of intentions, but most problems require at least some level of effort from the individual facing them.

When dealing with problems in our lives, a small measure of change is generally required from us. And change cannot come from without, it must come from inside us, and it will only come to us when we are ready for it. This often makes “untangling the woes in other people’s lives” a futile endeavor, for it may take years for them to embrace the necessary change within. However, what we can always do is be there for them while they are dealing with the issues by bringing “a cup of cool water to their soul and a scoop of laughter to their lonely heart”–by helping to heal their mind, heart, body, and spirit.

We all face problems in our lives… even those we love dearly. Yet it is not our duty to solve the problems of others; it is our duty to help them to heal so that they can have the best opportunity to face the issues they need to face to experience real growth from within. For what we really need in life is someone who can be there by our side to help us when we fall and to let us know that we are never alone.

Be completely present for those who need you in their life.

Questions to consider:

Do we generally feel that compassion requires us to cure the woes of others?

How can we bring laughter and support to those in need?

Who are the friends you look for in life? Are they people who will solve your problems for you… or people who will always be there with by your side when you face difficulties in life?

For further thought:

“The truest help we can render afflicted people is not to take their burdens from them, but to call out their best energy, that they may be able to bear the burden.” ~ Phillips Brooks


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Discover A Sincere Appreciation For The Blessings In Your Life

“The unthankful heart… discovers no mercies; but let the thankful heart sweep through the day and, as the magnet finds the iron, so it will find, in every hour, some heavenly blessings!” ~ Henry Ward Beecher …

Henry is right on here–gratitude is perhaps the strongest magnet available to us for finding heavenly blessings in our lives. Our lives are filled with abundant graces and mercies, but if we are not keeping an awareness of our blessings, much less making the effort to attract them to ourselves, we will discover but a very few of them.

This is the law of attraction: what we give out, we attract more of. When we give of our love and compassion, we attract more love and compassion back into our lives. And when we give of our talents and our time, others give back to us of their talents and time. Likewise, when we embody gratitude in our lives, we attract more blessings our way–blessings that increase our thankfulness.

Life tends to mirror what we give to it–being a good person attracts good people and things into our lives. But we must embrace a sincere appreciation for the blessings we have, sort of like opening the windows of our house so that the fresh air and sunshine can come in. If we can do this, we will find more of the things we value deeply–more heavenly blessings–that we ever imagined possible.

Discover a sincere appreciation for the blessings in your life.

Questions to consider:

Why might we take things for granted?

How can gratitude and appreciation be like a magnet in your life?

What are some of the things you attract to your life through your attitudes and perspectives?

For further thought:

“How wonderful it would be if we could help our children and grandchildren to learn thanksgiving at an early age. Thanksgiving opens the doors. It changes a child’s personality. A child is resentful, negative–or thankful. Thankful children want to give, they radiate happiness, they draw people.” ~ John Templeton

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Adopt A New, Positive Daily Routine

“You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.” ~ John C. Maxwell …

I know quite a few individuals who, for some unknown reason, believe that they can be successful in life without putting forth any effort. But because success is not something that any one of us is entitled to in life, these individuals are often met with disappointment. Success is something we must earn–it is something we create by making small changes in our daily routines.

Consistent effort is an essential ingredient to success; without it, we fall short. That is because success requires that we are actively doing the little things–day in and day out–that serve to cultivate personal growth, build up the world around us, and bring us closer to it. Examples of such could be putting forth the effort to complete our daily demands, or listening to others and showing genuine concern for their needs and wants. It could also mean including others in our discussions and accepting them for who they are, or incorporating a 30-minute walk or cutting an unhealthy snack from our daily routines.

The key is changing something that we do each day that will bring us closer to success. It may not guarantee us fame, power, or wealth, but those things are not really elements of success, are they. Success is reaching our goals and becoming the person we are meant to be. And with every positive change we make, we replace failures with positive gains–each of which will help bring us that much closer to reaching success in the areas of our lives we are working on.

Adopt a new, positive daily routine.

Questions to consider:

Are there truly any real shortcuts to success?

Why do we generally place so little importance on our daily routines?

What are some small positive changes you can make in your life? How might you go applying these?

For further thought:

“Success is not built on success. It is built on failure. It is built on frustration. Sometimes it is built on catastrophe.” ~ Sumner Redstone

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Challenge Your Beliefs

“The biggest addiction, and one we least often talk about, is being addicted to beliefs. We really get hooked into thinking what we believe is true and right.” ~ Martha Boesing …

We seldom look at our beliefs as something that we can become addicted to, but, when left unchecked, they tend to inflate our ego and go to our head. Rarely do we challenge our beliefs, and eventually when they are put to the test and fail, we rationalize them in an attempt to feel more self-righteous. That is perhaps why Martha is so spot on noting that this is perhaps one of the biggest, and least often talked about, addictions we are faced with.

When pride is involved, being attached to our beliefs can be a very unhealthy thing. By being so close-minded and ignorant to feel that our beliefs are always right and true, we prevent ourselves from growing and developing–spiritually, intellectually, physically, and emotionally. We also limit our ability to understand and comprehend things, as we force ourselves to process them with our limited beliefs.

In thinking back to some of the beliefs I held several years ago, I can honestly say that I would really not desire to defend them now–some of them were immature, some of them where ignorant and uninformed, and some of them were based off of preconceived notions and hearsay.

Be open to challenging your beliefs so that you can grow and develop every day. After all, learning is something that takes a lifetime, so we should not put unrealistic expectations on ourselves and our beliefs–it is absolutely normal for them to be in constant refinement.

Challenge your beliefs.

Questions to consider:

What kinds of beliefs do you hold most dear? Where have those beliefs came from?

Where do your beliefs take you? What kinds of actions do you perform in the name of your beliefs?

Why might so many people take challenges to their beliefs as personal challenges?

For further thought:

“We are incredibly heedless in the formation of our beliefs, but find ourselves with an illicit passion for them when anyone proposes to rob us of their companionship. It is obviously not the ideas themselves that are dear to us, but our self-esteem that is threatened.” ~ James Harvey

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Person Of Integrity

“By choosing integrity, I become more whole, but wholeness does not mean perfection. It means becoming more real by acknowledging the whole of who I am.” ~ Parker J. Palmer …

Choosing to be a person of integrity is an important aspect of being a person of character–of living a moral life based on strong principles and values. It is important to note, however, that a person’s degree of integrity does not correlate to their degree of perfection. Even though many individuals tend to label a person of integrity as “perfect,” they too have problems, make mistakes, and struggle with their demons. That is because there is so much more to integrity than simply becoming a person of good character–choosing integrity allows us to become “more whole,” to unravel the inner parts of ourselves that give us our true authenticity and uniqueness.

Our wholeness comes from within ourselves; we already have everything we need to become the person we were meant to be. And every time we choose to stand up for our beliefs, our morals, and our ideals, we “become more real,” we acknowledge the whole of who we truly are deep inside. In a sense, we choose to be the divine soul housed within our bodies; we say to the world that our body–our eyes, our skin, our hair, our hands and feet–are of this world… they are all simply extensions of our true self.

Look in the mirror today. Who do you see? Do you see the person within your body? Is this the same person you show to the rest of the world? And if not, why? At this very moment, you are already the whole person that you were meant to be, everything you need is within you. Believe in yourself, and do not allow the negative parts of this world to reside within you… for they are not of you.

Take a moment to reflect upon what wholeness means to you in your life.

Questions to consider:

Why might we limit our view of choosing integrity in our lives?

Why might we seek to gain wholeness through others?

What are some roadblocks to recognizing and accepting our wholeness within?

For further thought:

“The journey to wholeness requires that you look honestly, openly, and with courage into yourself, into the dynamics that lie behind what you feel, what you perceive, what you value, and how you act. It is a journey through your defenses and beyond so that you can experience consciously the nature of your personality, face what it has produced in your life, and choose to change that.” ~ Gary Zukav, The Seat of the Soul

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Be Yourself

“It’s simple; be YOU. If you’re not being you, you’re being someone else. YOU are not here to be someone else.” ~ Dr. Steve Maraboli …

I know many individuals who spend a great deal of time and energy trying to please others and worrying about what others think of them. And I think to myself, “What a silly way to go through your life, what a waste of one’s own unique gifts and talents.” We do not have to live our lives to please others… for other’s have the opportunity to live their life in a manner that is pleasing to themselves; doing so would be selling ourselves short to God and to the world.

If someone criticizes us, or our actions, we should be suspicious of their motives: do they truly care about us and have our best interests in mind, or are they trying to get us to act some way to benefit themselves at our expense. When people try to exert some control over our lives by showing excessive concern with the things we say and do, the best thing for us to do is not to let it bother us–to continue on living our lives to the fullest and to the best of our ability. However, with that being said, we have to remember that we are ultimately called to show compassion, love, and concern for our fellow man. Therefore, we must try our best to be the person we were created to be without intentionally harming others or treating them unfairly.

You were created to be who you are. Your talents and abilities contribute to the wonder and diversity of this world. Do not let life pass you by without leaving your unique footprint upon it, for you are a necessary part of this universe–of life.

Be your authentic self, and encourage someone close to you to do the same.

Questions to consider:

Are you always your authentic self? What might keep you from being so?

Why are some individuals so concerned about what we say, do, or think?

How often do we let those individuals influence the things we do or say? Why?

For further thought:

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” ~ Dr. Seuss

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Genuine Compassion

“Our job is to love others without stopping to inquire whether or not they are worthy.” ~ Thomas Merton …

For most of us, it is uncommon to think of love as a job; yet this is exactly what Thomas is telling us here: we have some responsibility towards our fellow human beings. We are to love them without question, whether or not we feel that they are people who are worthy of our love. But it does not stop there, as stewards of this earth, we have a duty to spread compassion to those who are neglected and lonely. To bring solace and love into the hearts of those we meet and not disturb the peace that lies within their hearts. And to be companions and guides to those who need guidance… especially children.

When we look at all the love that is required of us, it can seem a bit intimidating. But it need not be, for love is one of those beautiful things that gives back more than we put into it. The more and more we display love and compassion to our fellow man, the easier, and more rewarding it becomes. Love comes to surround us, it envelopes us in its life-sustaining embrace.

Our purpose here in this life is to be there for those who need us. Do not limit your circle of love to those who you feel worthy of your love. Give it unconditionally to everyone… because everyone needs to be shown encouragement, attention, kindness, and caring concern. Moreover, the cost to you is so very little, and the rewards are immeasurable.

Show genuine love and compassion to everyone you meet.

Questions to consider:

Do you put any conditions on your love?

How easy is it to love those who are close to us? How about those who are not?

What are some ways to help fulfill our job to love others unconditionally?

For further thought:

“There is always something to do. There are hungry people to feed, naked people to clothe, sick people to comfort and make well. And while I do not expect you to save the world I do think it is not asking too much for you to love those with whom you sleep, share the happiness of those whom you call friend, engage those among you who are visionary and remove from your life those who offer you depression, despair, and disrespect.” ~ Nikki Giovanni

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