“This too, shall pass. When things are bad, remember: It won’t always be this way. Take one day at a time. When things are good, remember: It won’t always be this way. Enjoy every great moment.” ~ Doe Zantamata …
We often times take for granted the good things that happen in our lives, while at the same time, we seem to exaggerate and magnify the bad, allowing it to affect us for extended periods of time and cause us great harm. Perhaps part of the problem is that we tend to fear that most of the problems, trials, and sufferings we experience will never end. That is not the case though, and it is important that we always remember the words of Doe: “This too, shall pass.”
If I get a paper cut on my finger, it is easy for me to deal with it at the moment because the pain is generally not that intense and I know that it will heal and I will be ok. However, if I tear muscle and am in intense pain, the fear that the pain will continue sets in, and I am no longer suffering just from a torn muscle, but from the fear I now have as well. This applies to all aspects of life–if a friend of mine betrays me, their betrayal usually tends to create additional fears of others doing the same, and perhaps invokes additional fear about my own self-worth.
Ironically enough, the strength to overcome my suffering and fear can be found through acceptance. Everything is as it is, the good and the bad, and unless I act to bring about further suffering, it will not happen. There is a subtle, yet powerful strength in our acceptance of life–exactly as it is–that enables us to face almost any situation in life with confidence and courage.
Facing our difficulties and sufferings in life is only part of the puzzle. Do not give them more power than they deserve. At the same time, it is important that we remember to “enjoy every great moment” we experience in life as well. We choose each day of our lives whether our experiences today will consist of good… or bad.
Take the time to experience the good in your life, and restrict the amount of time you allow the bad to seep into your thoughts.
Questions to consider:
Think of a time when things were bad for you. How much did your thoughts and actions contribute to your suffering?
Do all bad things eventually pass? If we know this to be true, do we truly need to fight all negative things, or can we simply let them run their course?
Think of a time when good things happened in your life. Did you allow yourself the opportunity to fully enjoy them? How can you help yourself to do so more often?
For further thought:
“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” ~ Kahlil Gibran