“I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired, don’t take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff.” ~ Jon Katz …
Friendship is “powerful stuff.” It defies math–a friend not just doubles, but increases your abilities and reach, multitudes of times over. It defies failure–where you feel you can go on no further or cannot succeed, a friend is there to help. It defies loneliness–for you are always in each other’s hearts. However, to have true friendships, we must know the importance of cultivating and maintaining them–of taking the time to visit a friend and strengthening that relationship–for we are not meant to tackle the world on our own.
Do I make time for my friends even though I may feel too busy or have other work or tasks that need tending to? As I run from task to task, and focus on work, sports, and entertainment instead of my friends, I find myself becoming more fragmented. It really diminishes my overall experience in life–I have no time to talk, no time to connect, no time to relax and enjoy the company of a close friend, and no time to make my relationships richer by sharing of myself.
Friendship is a here and now experience–one that we must prioritize above the things that have little to no consequence in life. We know not how long our friends will be here with us, and if we fail to take advantage of the time we do have with them, those opportunities to strengthen our ties of friendship will be lost.
Spend some time with friends today–let them know how important their friendship is to you.
Questions to consider:
What goes into your decision-making process when you have to decide whether to work or to talk? Is it possible that we place too much importance on getting things done in a certain amount of time? How many truly awful effects of not doing so have you seen?
Why do so many people value tasks over personal connection?
What kinds of situations might make you decide not to talk to a person with whom you have the chance to talk?
For further thought:
“Human beings are born into this little span of life of which the best thing is its friendships and intimacies… and yet they leave their friendships and intimacies with no cultivation, to grow as they will by the roadside, expecting them to “keep” by force of mere inertia.” ~ William James