“Let the world know you as you are, not as you think you should be, because sooner or later, if you are posing, you will forget the pose, and then where are you?” ~ Fanny Brice …
These words really depict the struggle and the effort required to go against being our true authentic selves, and rightfully so, for posing requires us to redirect tremendous amounts of time, effort, and other resources that could instead be used to develop a deeper sense of purpose, value, and meaning in our lives. In doing so, we must constantly be considering how we think we should act and how we think we must be in order to continue our pose, instead of just being ourselves. And even more importantly, if we are not working on being our authentic selves, then where exactly will we be once our temporary selves are gone?
It often takes a level of courage to be genuine with others in our lives. Many times we feel pressured to live up to their expectations, or we wish to avoid the potential confrontations and criticisms that may come about from us being authentic. Bet even though it may not always seem easy or ideal to be genuine with others, true authenticity is something that makes our lives much richer, much simpler, much more fulfilling, and much less prone to confer unpleasant surprises on us.
I am much less concerned that I will “forget the pose,” than I am about how others will feel or react if they were to discover that I am not necessarily the person that they believe me to be; which brings up the question, “Who am I trying to convince–others, myself, or both?”
Look in the mirror and ask yourself, “Who am I?” And if the person gazing back at you is not the same person you genuinely feel within, then now is the time to remove that mask of inauthenticity and be honest with others and yourself.
Simply be you–in all that you say and do.
Questions to consider:
Do you let the world know you exactly as you are? What are you like?
Why do so many people feel that it is important to pose as someone they are not?
What are some of the traits of the completely authentic you? Do you let those traits shine through?
For further thought:
“It is finally when you let go of what people expect you to be and people’s perceptions of you that you’re able to be the version of yourself that you’re supposed to be–like in God’s eyes. It doesn’t matter if you’re half crazy, or eccentric, or whatever it is–that you have to be true to who you were born to be.” ~ Gwyneth Paltrow