“The knowledge that another has felt as we have felt, and seen things, even if they are little things, not much otherwise than we have seen them, will continue to the end to be one of life’s choicest pleasures.” ~ Robert Louis Stevenson, Essays of Travel …
It truly is a “blessing” when others see things the way we do. But have you ever asked yourself why? Is it not also a “blessing” when others see things completely differently than we do, for this certainly displays the amazing uniqueness and diversity we each possess and rejoices in the variety of beautiful medleys our perspectives and opinions produce?
Our uniqueness, of course, is a blessing to this world; it breathes life and creativity into it. And yet, there is something amazing about being able to agree with someone else about something. For when we do so, we experience a deeper bond with them, and a little more of the unity that so strongly defines us as human beings is exposed and shared. This helps to clarify the connections that we share with one another and elevates them into something much more real, clear, and focused.
The bond of shared feelings and perspectives undoubtedly is “one of life’s choicest pleasures.” And what is perhaps even more satisfying is our ability to share it with those in our lives, with those we love and care deeply about. This provides a natural channel through which we can elevate our relationships and build a unity and togetherness that does not require others to feel or see things as we do. In addition, it is important to recognize that we can access those feelings at any time simply by acknowledging that we are all family–we breathe the same air, live on the same planet, and share the common bonds of humanity.
It is, and always shall be, a great blessing when someone agrees with us and shares our feelings and perspectives. And when we can appreciate this blessing, and share it with others, little by little we can make life more pleasurable for ourselves and for those we love.
Be aware of some of the feelings and perspectives you share with those you interact with.
Questions to consider:
How often do other people feel the same ways that we feel about certain things? How does it feel when someone does share our feelings?
Why do we tend to appreciate agreement from others more than we appreciate divergent opinions?
What can we do to help ourselves to understand other people’s perspectives and ideas more?
For further thought:
“Ye live not for yourselves; ye cannot live for yourselves; a thousand fibres connect you with your fellow-men, and along those fibres, as along sympathetic threads, run your actions as causes, and return to you as effects.” ~ Henry Melvill, excerpt from sermon “Partaking in Other Men’s Sins” from The Golden Lectures