“Worry a little bit every day and in a lifetime you will lose a couple of years. If something is wrong, fix it if you can. But train yourself not to worry. Worry never fixes anything.” ~ Mary Hemingway, I Won’t Worry …
Worrying is essentially a waste of our time. It has absolutely no effect at all on any situation and causes us unnecessary stress and health issues, for not only do we still have to deal with whatever it is that has us anxious or troubled later, worrying makes us deal with it now as well. And if it is not bad enough that we are sabotaging our own happiness by worrying, we are also making it difficult for others to sympathize with us, as they tend to understand that we are the cause of our misery.
The focus is clear here: time spent worrying is wasted time that we can never get back. And since our time in this life is already limited, why would we ever want to take a chance at wasting any of it–especially a couple of years. It is important to note that Mary also tells us to try to fix those things that are wrong in our lives, and if we cannot, well then accept that and move on–worrying will not change this fact.
You may be running out of money, but worrying will not provide you with more–only getting out there and actively working may do so. And there may be a hurricane, tornado, typhoon, or terrible storm heading my way, but worrying about it will not provide you with safety–but taking the necessary precautions and preparing yourself for whatever might happen can.
The positive in this message is that worrying is a negative choice that we make. Thus, if we find ourselves worrying too much, we can train ourselves to stop. And the more we learn to recognize when we exhibit such behavior, the easier it becomes to end it and prevent it in the future. And not only will doing so improve our experience in life and our outlook on life, but it will also help to keep our body, mind, and spirit healthy and at peace.
If you find yourself worrying today, let it go.
Questions to consider:
What has worry ever accomplished in your life? How did worry accomplish it?
What are some strategies you can use to train yourself not to worry?
Do you know anyone who doesn’t worry? How do they do it? What effects does the lack of worry have on their lives?
For further thought:
“Do you remember the things you were worrying about a year ago? How did they work out? Didn’t you waste a lot of fruitless energy on account of most of them? Didn’t most of them turn out all right after all?” ~ Dale Carnegie, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living