“If you have a belief that the people who love you will leave you, then sure enough, it will happen. Over and over again. So you had better become aware of your unconscious beliefs. They are creating your experience of life.” ~ Leonard Jacobson …
What we believe tends to become our reality. This is because what we choose to believe tends to determine how we act, and how we act determines how we are seen and treated by the world around us. Thus, we can say with a fair consistency that our core beliefs directly contribute to our experiences in life. If we believe that people who love us will leave us, as Leonard mentions, then we will either treat them badly, distance ourselves from them, or perhaps try to hold onto them too hard, which in every case will most likely end in those individuals leaving us.
The simple fact of the matter is that when we believe something negative, we begin to engage in negative behavior as a result, and this tends to make others want to distance themselves from us–no one enjoys being around negative individuals. Thus, our beliefs become the source of our misery–perpetuating and spreading it into all areas of our lives.
This is why it is important that we pay attention to our unconscious beliefs, that we take the time to analyze and study them. Many of my circumstances and conditions in life could be understood if I simply took the time to be aware of my beliefs towards them. Perhaps I feel that I am not meant to be happy or wealthy. Or maybe I feel I am not supposed to be in a loving or nurturing relationship, or that I am not meant to be treated with love and respect. If I truly believe this, well then guess what… I will be unhappy or poor, or I will be in unhealthy relationships where I am mistreated and disrespected.
Look to the areas of conflict in your life and ask yourself, “What do I believe about this area of my life?” If you do so passionately, thoroughly, and honestly, you might discover that you have been holding on to beliefs that you would rather not be, or hanging on to beliefs that you despise in others. We all are faced with difficulties and struggles in life, and often times we cause them ourselves–making them completely unnecessary, but no less true. But the more we discover, grow, and develop our ability to define ourselves and our beliefs more clearly, the more our lives begin to change in positive and meaningful ways, and the richer they start to become.
Take time today to examine your unconscious beliefs.
Questions to consider:
How do we come to have the beliefs we have?
How can the beliefs that we have affect the ways we act?
When do we adopt most of our beliefs about who we are and what we deserve in life? Is that the best time to adopt beliefs?
For further thought:
“The thing always happens that you really believe in and the belief in a thing makes it happen. And I think nothing will happen until you thoroughly and deeply believe in it.” ~ Frank Lloyd Wright