“Life is thickly sown with thorns. I know no other remedy than to pass rapidly over them. The longer we dwell on our misfortunes the greater is their power to harm us.” ~ Voltaire, The Philosophical Works …
Our minds are such powerful instruments. With them, we can both imagine, and then create, a beautiful world around us. However, as with every power, we must be careful how we use it. Whatever our mind focuses on expands. If we dwell on our misfortune, we prolong the feelings of helplessness and sorrow. Therefore, it is important that we realize where we choose to place our focus in life, so that we can do our best not to let misfortunes continue to harm us.
Throughout much of our lives we are taught to avoid bad things–if we find ourselves in a bad situation, we should get out of it; if we are in a bad relationship, we should end it; if something involves risk, we should not attempt it. But what about our thoughts? They affect us too. Rarely are we taught to change our thoughts if we wish to change our lives.
I have heard others say things such as “you have to move on,” or “you have to get over it,” but until we are able to truly recognize and accept the harm we are doing to ourselves, we will not be able to move on. And sometimes the misfortunes are very hard to deal with, such as the death of a loved one, and it will take longer for us to let such things go. But longer does not mean forever, and eventually we have to make a decision about just what we are going to focus on.
Life will present us all with hardships and misfortunes–of that I can assure you. However, how we choose to deal with them is up to us. It is therefore our duty to accept them as part of our lives, accept that they have happened, and then work towards moving on. Spend what time is necessary for grieving, mourning, or feeling anger, and then make the decision to take the power away from the misfortune and back into your hands.
If you find yourself facing any misfortunes in life, take a moment to reassure yourself that “this too, shall pass.”
Questions to consider:
How can you make sure that you do not hold on to misfortune longer than is necessary for you to get over it?
What would life be like if you were to dwell on the positive and the beautiful instead of the painful and the annoying?
How can misfortunes harm us if they have already passed? Why do we so often give them the power to do so?
For further thought:
“Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?” ~ Leo Buscaglia