“The essence of true friendship is to make allowances for another’s little lapses.” – David Storey …
We all have our faults, we all have our shortcomings, and we all make mistakes… and because of this fact, we each owe a great amount of gratitude to those friends and loved ones who have made allowances for our lapses, both great and small. Yet perhaps even more important, is our ability to forgive our friends for their lapses, as this serves to set the standard by which we are treated, and ultimately determines the environment in which we live in.
True friendship is often not taught to us very well as we are growing up. But it is important that we understand what it is if we wish to be able to be a true friend to others. If we wish for our relationships to be strong and authentic, we have to be able to both give what is needed of us, and to receive what is shared back.
It is easy to expect perfection from others, but that is unrealistic and unfair, and is not what true friends do. One of the greatest qualities of true friendship is the ability understand their humanity. To do so is to forgive them for their transgressions and to be there for them when they fail so that we might help them back up.
Friendship is a wonderful gift we have available to both give and receive. Enjoy the company and good times of those you care about and show them neighborly qualities such as concern, compassion, service, and friendship. Share with them of your time, joy, energy, and love. Above all, be fair with them, allowing them to make mistakes, and have their lapses, without facing unfair judgement and condemnation.
Show forgiveness to your friends for their shortcomings.
Questions to consider:
Why is it sometimes difficult to let our friends’ little lapses go?
What kinds of little lapses have you committed yourself that your friends have let go?
How many friendships are not necessarily “true” friendships because one or the other will not let the little lapses go?
For further thought:
“A friend is a person who likes you for what you are, in spite of all your faults, all your shortcomings.” – Arthur Armand Montapert