“You learn more from ten days of agony than from ten years of content.” ~ Sally Jessy Raphael …
Contentment, serenity, peace, gladness–these are all such wonderful aspects of life. Yet when we experience them, it is important that we keep the reality of life in perspective–we all have our darkest days… times when we feel that we are hanging on by a thread and cannot make it through what life has dealt us. And during such periods of our life, it is important to remain steadfast and focused, for these are the times in which we have the greatest ability for growth and change. When things are going poorly, or when unpleasant things are happening, it is important that we are able to recognize that the sun is still shining brightly, just beyond the clouds. And when the storms subside, we will have become a stronger individual because of what we have faced–the trials and difficulties will help us to become all the more useful to those who matter most in our lives.<!–more–>
This brings up an important aspect of overcoming difficulties in life–not being afraid to ask others for help. Many individuals have gone through hard times and similar experiences as we are faced with and have come out stronger and more resilient. Not only are these individuals wonderful sources for advice, but more often than not, they would be delighted to be able to help someone else through similar times by sharing some of their knowledge, wisdom, and insight.
Unfortunately, we cannot always rely on others to help us through the hardships of life. Sometimes, there simply are no words that can help us and we may need to help ourselves. Yet knowing the truth behind Sally’s words–both accepting it and believing it–can be an effective means to understanding and dealing with the difficulties of life. For therein lies the perspective that is necessary of us to unlock the true potential of such hardships–to help us grow and change into more stronger, kinder, more compassionate and caring individuals.
Reflect on how the hurt and pains you face in life might help you to become stronger.
Questions to consider:
If you are going through something difficult, do you value advice from someone who has been through the same thing over the advice of someone who has never experienced it?
What is the value of learning through adversity?
Just because we learn more from agony, does that mean we want to search out agonizing situations?
For further thought:
“You will not grow if you sit in a beautiful flower garden, but you will grow if you are sick, in pain, experience losses, and if you do not put your head in the sand, but take the pain and learn to accept it, not as a curse or punishment, but as a gift to you with a very, very specific purpose.” ~ Elisabeth Kubler-Ross