“I learned long ago never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it.” ~ Cyrus Ching …
There are some individuals, who when I try to point out something hurtful that they have done to get them to see how damaging their actions are, they try to turn it into an argument. They love to fight and are typically outright mean to anyone around them. The idea of bickering with these people, as Cyrus appropriately puts it, is like wrestling with a pig–they enjoy fighting and do not want to keep things civil… they want it to get dirty. <!–more–>
In my experience, those who are willing to hurt others are usually not interested in knowing what kind of harm they have done. They typically would prefer to continue feeling the self-righteousness that allowed them to act in inconsiderate and harmful ways in the first place. In addition, they rarely employ logic in an argument as logic tends to keep things clean. This means that nearly any interaction we begin with these individuals typically becomes a conflict. They try to fluster us, get under our nerves. Perhaps we will hear them say “So?” when we point out how much hurt or damage they have caused. Just like wrestling with a pig, we can waste enormous amounts of energy trying to reason with such people, and still never reach any sort of satisfactory conclusion. And as we try to reason with them, they watch and enjoy all the stress and discomfort we are experiencing because of their unwillingness to respond to logic.
Some individuals, no matter how much we try, simply love irritating others. There really is no point in trying to work with them–expending any amount of energy to accomplish something that, really, cannot be accomplished. Playing their games is simply a waste of our time and energy–we give up our peace only to add enjoyment and pleasure to the life of someone who truly does not deserve our time of day.
Do not give the pigs the enjoyment of watching you get dirty as well out of frustration and annoyance. Let the pigs be pigs, and choose battles that are more logical. And if, perhaps, you need a pig to do something, you can find someone who knows how to make pigs do things; we do not necessarily have to do everything ourselves.
Choose your battles wisely–do not waste time “wrestling with any pigs.”
Questions to consider:
What makes us tend to take on tasks that are not easily accomplished, especially where other people are concerned?
Why do we tend to continue to wrestle with pigs, even when we have seen that it does not really work?
What are some options that we could take instead of wrestling with pigs? Who could help us out with the pig?
For further thought:
“A more peaceful way to live is to decide consciously which battles are worth fighting and which are better left alone. Is it really important that you confront someone simply because he or she has made a minor mistake? Does a small scratch on your car really warrant a suit in small claims court? These and thousands of other small things are what many people spend their lives fighting about. If you don’t want to “sweat the small stuff,” it’s critical that you choose your battles wisely.” ~ Richard Carlson