“When you can, always advise people to do what you see they really want to do, so long as what they want to do isn’t dangerously unlawful, stupidly unsocial, or obviously impossible. Doing what they want to do, they may succeed; doing what they don’t want to do, they won’t.” ~ James Gould Cozzens…
Because we each inhabit our own niche areas of life, we amass our own distinct wealth of knowledge, experiences, and talents. These talents, experiences, and knowledge provide for us unique perspectives in life. It should therefore be no surprise as to why others would need to come to us seeking advice. And when they do, although it might be tempting to give them advice based on our personal preferences, experiences, and views of the world, we should really try our best to encourage them along the paths that they most desire.
When we advise others to swim against the currents of their dreams and ambitions, we become the sole motivators towards success in their lives, and that motivation typically will not carry them far. However, when we offer positive reinforcement and encouragement, we bolster their motivation and become additional support for them as they travel towards their dreams and ambitions. After all, doing what we love keeps the passion burning within our hearts and really sets us up for the best chance of experiencing meaningful success in our lives.
And although success is a relative term–making more money does not necessarily equate to success–doing what we love to do, and doing it well, is always a success. Many individuals who make much less money than those we generally consider successful are very happy doing the things that they are passionate about in life. In addition, those individuals who love what they are doing are essentially never working a day in their lives.
Offering positive advice and encouragement to others is an important part of living our lives to the fullest. We all need it from time to time, and the best part about giving encouragement and supports support to others, is that we also support ourselves–producing a net gain of the positive energy filling this world.
Try to offer some positive encouragement and support when approached for advice.
Questions to consider:
What kinds of advice do you generally give to others?
Why do we tend to base our advice on what makes us happy? How well is the advice transferred?
Which of your personal experiences do you typically use as a basis for the advice you give?
For further thought:
“I have found the best way to give advice to your children is to find out what they want and then advise them to do it.” ~ Harry S. Truman