“The soul would have no rainbow had the eyes no tears.” ~ John Vance Cheney …
Most of us have been taught at a young age that crying is a sign of weakness, which is more than likely a major contributor as to why so many adults struggle at trying to deal with their emotions. Married couples facing relationship issues are often embarrassed or simply do not understand how to express their feelings. And many adults in financial trouble do not want to admit that they are in over their heads. Yet the reality of crying is that it is good for the soul; it is a necessary part of life. And we all have shed tears at some point in our lives… every single one of us… and perhaps that is the difference that John is hinting at here: that the tears we shed refract the light of our souls in ways that are necessary for us to add our authentic beauty into this world.
Crying is an essential part of our lives. Without the contrasting feelings of pain, we would never know joy. It pulls our focus inwards towards our self and our hurt so that we can begin the process of healing. It cleanses our soul and frees us from the bonds of negative feelings such as guilt, anger, shame, fear, despair, rejection, and pain. It heightens our emotional senses and reminds us that we are truly alive.
The truth is that bad things are going to happen in my life. People I know will pass away. People I love will have bad things happen to them. My patience and my ability to see the beauty in life will be tested. But no matter what comes my way, my feelings still are tempered by my perspective–the way I feel is up to me and not these situations. If I can therefore respond to the difficulties of life with the positive and realistic perspective that “This, too, shall pass,” I can weather any storm.
It is easy to become transfixed in our suffering, but our sadness and despair do not have to be permanent. And once we begin to realize this truth–that the conditions that have caused these negative feelings are temporary or can be dealt with in healthy ways–we can begin to move on. Even in the midst of our darkest hours, we are still surrounded by much beauty and goodness in our lives; keep that beauty in sight. And if your soul needs to cry, let it do so, for there is immense beauty just beyond the tears.
Take a moment to comfort yourself or someone you know who is suffering.
Questions to consider:
Do you allow yourself to cry? When was the last time you did so? How did that feel?
Why should we try to keep in mind that sadness and darkness are necessary elements of our lives? How do you react to them when they come into your life?
What hidden beauty do we express to the world through our tears?
For further thought:
“There are as many nights as days, and the one is just as long as the other in the year’s course. Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word “happy” would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better to take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.” ~ Carl Gustav Jung