“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.” ~ Harvey Forbes Fierstein….
Standing up for ourselves and for our beliefs is not always easy–many individuals have great difficulty doing so even when the consequences of not doing so directly affect them in very negative ways. But we are defined by our actions. And when we let others determine our actions by paying attention to what they say, or choose inaction out of fear or embarrassment–even if unintentional or involuntary–we diminish our lives and our purpose.
We do not need to let others bully us into silence–we are beautiful creations of a loving God, empowered with a voice that is both significant and unique. And we have been gifted a mind that is ours alone–no one else can be who we are. We possess talents and abilities that hold limitless potential to define our lives and who we are in whatever ways we so choose–no one else can tell us who, what, or how we should be, unless we let them. We have to stand up and believe in ourselves.
When we allow others to control who we are–and there are plenty of insecure individuals who would be pleased to do so–we are no longer living as our authentic selves; instead, we become something less beautiful because the true beauty within us has been repressed by the controlling tendencies of another. Likewise, we should never try to control, intimidate, and victimize others, as doing so only diminishes them and their potential. Be a flame for the world by letting your beauty and the beauty of those around you shine for the entire world to see. And never allow others the ability to put out or diminish your beautiful flame.
Let your authentic voice be heard. If you stand for nothing, you fall for anything.
Questions to consider:
Why do some people try to bully others into silence?
Do you ever allow yourself to be a victim? If so, how?
Have you defined the unique individual characteristics of yourself? Do you ever accept any one else’s definition of who, what, and how you are? If so, why?
For further thought:
“Coming to appreciate your worth can, in some cases, dramatically improve your circumstances by changing the choices you make and the actions you take. And as you begin to treat yourself with more respect, other people begin to do the same, since we subconsciously “train” others how to treat us through messages we send through body language, tone of voice, and other subtle cues and behaviors. Discovering your innate worth and living from that place allows you to make more constructive choices–to choose the higher roads of life.” – Dan Millman, Everyday Enlightenment