“I have had more trouble with myself than with any other man I’ve met.’ ~ Dwight L. Moody …
Although this statement may seem quite odd at first, in truth, it is actually much closer to our real experience of life: we tend to struggle with ourselves much longer, and with much more intensity, than we do with any other individual that we have met, or ever will meet. Perhaps this is because we spend all day, in our own company, every day–we see the good in ourselves, but also the bad. This can prompt us to get angry and condemn ourselves, to criticize and deride ourselves, and to make choices and decisions that bring us down, keeping us from reaching our potential.
For us to find purpose and fulfillment in life, it is imperative that we always keep focused on treating ourselves right. This means showing ourselves self-respect and love, showing self-forgiveness and compassion, offering understanding and kindness, and giving ourselves a break now and then. We are all creatures of this Earth, designed lovingly and equally by the same Creator; and to treat ourselves with cruelty and disrespect is a travesty in so many ways.
Keep in mind that the trouble we have with ourselves is spread into our relationships with others. After all, the negative baggage that we have to carry with us eventually has to be offloaded somewhere. In addition, we can only give to others what we are willing to give to ourselves first. If we give ourselves trouble, well then, trouble is what we will also bring to those in our lives.
We are in this relationship with ourselves for the long haul, so we best find positive, productive, and healthy ways of dealing with ourselves. We are worthy of our kindness, love, and compassion; and if we offer that to ourselves, we will almost never have to say, “I have had more trouble with myself than with any other man I’ve met.”
Offer to yourself a healthy measure of compassion and understanding.
Questions to consider:
What are some of the troubles you have with yourself? How do you tend to deal with them?
How often do you show yourself kindness, compassion, and love?
What are some effective ways in which you can reduce and limit the troubles you might have with yourself?
For further thought:
“A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.” ~ Christopher Germer