“It is not true that nice guys finish last. Nice guys are winners before the game ever starts.” ~ Addison Walker …
Society often tries to convince us that nice guys finish last–that those who put the needs and concerns of others above their own, end up becoming the losers. They change the definition of a winner to be of a more transient period that often includes a self-serving agenda. Real winners, however, plan for the long-term, and often put “niceness” above the end result. That is why nice people are winners by default in the game of life–they have learned how to treat others with kindness and compassion, and they have learned just how they can positively affect the world around them through nice thoughts, words, and deeds.
I have always had serious problems with the idea that “nice guys finish last.” Similar to the song by Billy Joel, “Only the Good Die Young,” it just seemed like such a stupid idea to me–one that would make us not want to be nice. After all, who wants to finish last? It also made it sound like anyone who finishes first, by the mere virtue of his or her victory, simply cannot be a nice person.
Charitable, kind-hearted, and altruistic characteristics are the building blocks of all decent and caring societies of the world. And when we find these qualities present in our daily interactions with each other, we witness some of the finest aspects of our humanity. These elements of our character also tend to produce additional charity, love, and compassion–aspects of a nourishing environment that best allows us to live our lives to the fullest. Knowing that others are motivated simply by the desire to be nice, removes the stress of worrying about how they will treat us today, tomorrow, or in the days thereafter.
We all have the potential to be “winners before the game ever starts.” Be kind. Be compassionate. Be concerned with your fellow man. Love one another. Actively make the world a better and more pleasant place to live. How we treat others is perhaps the greatest mark of who we really are.
Wouldn’t you rather be nice?
Questions to consider:
Why was the phrase “Nice guys finish last” so popular? How did you feel about it? Why?
Would you rather be around nice people or people who show no kindness? Which type are you?
Who is the nicest and most sincere person you know? How does that individual make others feel?
For further thought:
“Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate.” ~ Albert Schweitzer