“You closed your eyes. That was the difference. Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them too–even when you are in the dark. Even when you are falling.” ~ Morrie Schwartz …
Perhaps you have participated in one of the activities known as “trust falls.” In these exercises, an individual must stand with their back facing towards someone else, and fall backwards without preparing to brace himself or herself for the fall–essentially placing all their trust in the person who is catching them. Life is a lot like this; we cannot always believe what we see, but we can believe what we feel.
As rational beings, we are often quick to see our feelings as inferior to our logic and our rational thoughts, disregarding them as just feelings. Yet this is a huge mistake, for our feelings comprise one of the most important elements of who we are as human beings–they are completely unique and have much to teach us about ourselves and how we fit into the world around us, as well as the ability to add value, purpose, and meaning to our lives.
And when it comes to our feelings that we do listen to, we tend to give the instinctual ones more value, as if they are more valid. But what about our feelings of joy or pleasure? Surely, they are an indication that something is very valuable to us. Or what about our feelings of apprehension or unease? Perhaps they can tell us whether something is good or bad for us.
Most of us have experienced being approached by a deceptive or fake individual who was trying to make it seem as if he or she really was interested in us as a person. Perhaps a salesperson who was telling you everything they thought you wanted to hear in order to secure you as a buyer. Or an individual who pretends to care about things that are important to you, only to say differently behind your back. In cases like these, our feelings can offer us a better understanding of the motivations behind an individual’s words and actions, and possibly protect us from putting ourselves in a place where we can be hurt or taken advantage of.
Our feelings are as much a part of who we are as our logical and rational thoughts. And if we can come to read and understand the feelings that we experience, they can provide for us a necessary balance in our lives–a balance that will make it much easier for us to live our lives to the fullest each day.
Learn to trust your feelings and intuitions a little more.
Questions to consider:
Why might someone discount their feelings and pay more attention to their logical thoughts?
What happens to us when we pay less attention to our feelings?
What value can our feelings bring to our lives?
For further thought:
“By going along with feelings, you unify your emotional, mental and bodily states. When you try to fight or deny them, you divorce yourself from the reality of your being.” ~ Jane Roberts