“So what do you want? Do you know? Do you dare to dream? Do you dare to desire? Do you dare to let your imagination (the most divine and mighty gift of the human race) run to the winds of fancy? What do you want? What do you dearly, truly want?” ~ Lynn Grabhorn, Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting …
How often do we allow ourselves to become so busy and overwhelmed that we forget to consider seriously our wants? How many times have we personally disallowed ourselves to desire and to dream that our wants can even be fulfilled? Perhaps it was because of past hurts and sorrows; or maybe out of fear of failure or rejection. However, the fact remains that both of these self-destructive tendencies can prevent us from making substantive gains towards our own fulfillment. After all, our desires are legitimate parts of who we are–as long as we take care in not hurting anyone else in trying to fulfill them.
Some individuals put off their wants, suspending them until certain conditions are met. “Perhaps I will visit my homeland in ten years, when I have saved enough money.” Often times though, in ten years they have still not made that trip. With expenses such as doctor bills, mortgage payments, property taxes, education, and loans, and time requirements of work and family, we find that the money, time, availability, or the baby-sitting just is not there.
Of course, we should not put ourselves into debt to fulfill most of our wants. We must exercise good judgment and prudence in the pursuit of our desires. Still, we all could benefit from focusing a little bit more on fulfilling our own wants and desires in life. Yes it is noble to put others needs and wants first, but in the end, we simply cannot grow and develop as a person by neglecting ourselves. In addition, when we fail to develop our ability to turn our wants into reality, we deprive ourselves of a lot of satisfaction–satisfaction that has a direct effect on us and our ability to help others in life.
Whether it is material, emotional, spiritual, or intellectual, we first need to distinguish those things that are our true desires–things that we “dearly, truly want?” Then, after we have recognized those desires, we can commit to pursuing them with the whole of our being. And this is an integral part of our growth, because until we make the effort to fulfill our wants, we hinder ourselves from becoming truly fulfilled human beings.
Take your wants and desires into serious consideration.
Questions to consider:
What was the last want of yours that you worked at to fulfill? How did you do so?
What does Lynn mean when she asks if you “dare to desire?”
Why is desiring a daring act?
For further thought:
“We all spend so much time not saying what we want, because we know we cannot have it. And because it sounds ungracious, or ungrateful, or disloyal, or childish, or banal. Or because we are so desperate to pretend that things are OK, really, that confessing to ourselves they are not looks like a bad move. Go on, say what you want. . . . Whatever it is, say it to yourself. The truth will set you free. Either that or it will get you a punch in the nose. Surviving in whatever life you are living means lying, and lying corrodes the soul, so take a break from the lies for just one minute.” ~ Nick Hornby, A Long Way Down