Denial To Acceptance

“Of course there is no formula for success except perhaps an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings.” ~ Artur Rubinstein …

Most cultural views of what success is contradict Artur’s vision. Society generally tends to tell us that success has to be planned and created by dictating our lives, not by accepting what life brings to us without conditions. Thus, to accept his view, the majority of us would be required to redefine “success” in our lives. Yet perhaps this is a good thing; after all, most accepted views of success carry a high price tag with them–loss of friends, high blood pressure, heart disease, ulcers, cancer, fleeting happiness, loss of value and purpose in life, and so much more. So with weighing in the true costs, just who really has succeeded in life: the selfless person who has touched many lives in positive ways, or the selfish person who has made more money, gained more fame, or accumulated more pleasure? Which one of these individuals would I rather be on the day I die?

Life will bring many things into our lives on its own terms. And as it does, we can either spend our time and energy fighting those things because they do not seem to fit in with what we want to do or become, or we can find ways of accepting them and growing from them and using them. We tend to think that we can make life what we want it to be, but that is not the case. There will be people and situations that come into our lives that challenge our ideas or implore us to live our lives more fully. And chances are we will not accept them or their messages, or the situations, until we are on the same page. Yet if we really think about it, perhaps, life has a reason for bringing such a person or situation into our life.

Furthermore, acceptance does not imply that we simply give up–acceptance of a poor financial situation does not mean giving up and being poor for the rest of our life. However, it does mean that we recognize our current situations for all that they are, and come to peace with the fact that this is how they will be for now.

Acceptance is a very powerful word, one that can change our lives for the better if we adopt it as a way of life. And when we embrace it unconditionally, it becomes even more powerful, however, more difficult to put into practice. Find ways to embrace your life little by little, as it is, and you will discover all that you need in life.

Find acceptance for what life is bringing to you.

Questions to consider:

Why do we usually place conditions on our acceptance of things, people, and situations in life?

What benefits can acceptance bring to our lives?

How does success achieve through opposition differ from success achieved through acceptance?

For further thought:

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” ~ Melody Beattie

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