“Because one believes in oneself, one does not try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one does not need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” ~ Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching …
Our confidence in our self goes a long way towards determining how others see us. When we see ourselves as unattractive, insignificant, or unworthy, we tend to shy away and become protective of ourselves, hiding away our beauty and potential from others. In such instances, our distorted view of ourselves becomes the same lenses others have to look through to see us. However, when we believe in our abilities and ourselves, we breed confidence, assurance, and contentment, all of which enables us to share fully, our unique talents, abilities, and potential with others, who in turn begin to see us through a much clearer lens.
Believing in ourselves can sometimes seem like a lonely journey in life. After all, when we are not looking for the approval of others, or trying to be agreeable, much of our interactions become unnecessary–we no longer need to convince others that we are right, or that they should approve of us because of a belief or perspective that we share or of something that we have done. But it is actually quite the opposite: lack of confidence breeds insecurity and seclusion.
When we believe in ourselves, and find contentment with all that we are–both the good and the bad–there truly is no path that can be lonely. Because at that point, we have recognized that we no longer need the approval of others to live life to the fullest.
Find acceptance with yourself through the following steps:
1.) Confidence: It is important to realize that you have been given some great gifts, and that you deserve to have belief in yourself.
2.) Contentment: Understand that you do not need to convince others that you deserve this belief, but it would be really nice if you were to convince yourself and truly feel it.
3.) Acceptance: Approve of yourself… embrace and all that you are.
Questions to consider:
Do you believe in yourself? Are you content with who you are?
Why do we often feel the need for the approval of others?
What would it take for you to fully accept yourself exactly as you are?
For further thought:
“Few and mean as my gifts may be, I actually am, and do not need for my own assurance or the assurance of my fellows any secondary testimony. What I must do is all that concerns me, not what the people think.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson