“You are loved just for being who you are, just for existing. You do not have to do anything to earn it. Your shortcomings, your lack of self-esteem, physical perfection, or social and economic success–none of that matters. No one can take this love away from you, and it will always be here.” ~ Ram Dass …
Self-love is a very important aspect of life, and so is our ability to recognize our own shortcomings and deficiencies, and then face them with acceptance and love. After all, every single piece that makes us up–successes and failures, strengths and weaknesses–define us and bring us into completeness.
These small character traits are just traits–things that I can work on, things that I do not have to let define me as a whole. And in realizing this truth, I allow myself to grant forgiveness and kindness to myself whenever I notice my own shortcomings. Likewise, because others are quite forgiving of my deficiencies, I too should offer similar forgiveness to them as well. Thus, when I see others acting in ways I do not like, I can find more compassion, more understanding, and more empathy for the journey of the spiritual being within them.
By recognizing the deficiencies we carry and owning them, we demonstrate to ourselves how important it is not to judge others too harshly–for we all deserve mutual acceptance and respect in spite of our shortcomings. Additionally, by confronting our own faults and flaws in life, we take an important step in loving ourselves unconditionally, which is necessary for us to become whole. And this “unconditional” part of love is the only thing that makes love true, whether it be for ourselves or for others.
Offer understanding, forgiveness, grace, and acceptance to others.
Questions to consider:
How often do you allow yourself to feel loved unconditionally?
Why do others often hide their faults and flaws?
What have you learned from your own shortcomings? How can these deficiencies help us to become more compassionate and loving individuals?
For further thought:
“Face your deficiencies and acknowledge them; but do not let them master you. Let them teach you patience, sweetness, insight.” ~ Helen Keller