“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” ~ Groucho Marx …
Anger is a very powerful force. Unfortunately, it is also a very negative one, which additionally clouds our thoughts and our judgments. Therefore, those who tend to speak after losing their temper, have the impossible task of holding back their impulsive emotions and all that negativity, and as a result, tend to regret their words later.
Speaking out of anger is like throwing gasoline on a fire–it usually does not produce the results we desire. As a matter of fact, most conflicts involving anger result in misery, suffering, pain, and often times violence–crimes, domestic violence, war, divorce, separation… the list goes on and on. It is difficult for me to imagine all the hurt in the world and not wonder at just how my anger has played a part in it.
The trick to not speaking out of anger is making sure that we still have our peace within–no internal conflicts of mind or heart. For when we are able to speak from a place of peace, our thoughts will always remain calm and collected, and we can effectively get to the heart of the matter.
Anger is not our only option… there is forgiveness, there is acceptance, there is understanding, and there is love. And none of these necessarily mean that we have to condone the actions of others, they merely allow us to get through them in a healthy manner.
Visualize the words you speak as filling the air around you with healthy air, or noxious gas.
Questions to consider:
What are some things that make you angry? Why?
Is speaking out of anger generally constructive or destructive?
What are some other ways to respond to situations besides anger? What would the world be like if more people were to do so?
For further thought:
“Anger is the most futile emotion one can experience. It is totally negative and feeds on one’s irrational, vindictive, and punitive nature. It accomplishes nothing but a wider rift between persons, a growing dissatisfaction with self, and empty feeling where loving understanding ought to be.” ~ Louise Doud