“By choosing integrity, I become more whole, but wholeness does not mean perfection. It means becoming more real by acknowledging the whole of who I am.” ~ Parker J. Palmer
Choosing to be a person of integrity is an important aspect of being a person of character–of living a moral life based on strong principles and values. It is important to note, however, that a person’s degree of integrity does not correlate to their degree of perfection. Even though many individuals tend to label a person of integrity as “perfect,” they too have problems, make mistakes, and struggle with their demons. That is because there is so much more to integrity than simply becoming a person of good character–choosing integrity allows us to become “more whole,” to unravel the inner parts of ourselves that give us our true authenticity and uniqueness.
Our wholeness comes from within ourselves; we already have everything we need to become the person we were meant to be. And every time we choose to stand up for our beliefs, our morals, and our ideals, we “become more real,” we acknowledge the whole of who we truly are deep inside. In a sense, we choose to be the divine soul housed within our bodies; we say to the world that our body–our eyes, our skin, our hair, our hands and feet–are of this world… they are all simply extensions of our true self.
Look in the mirror today. Who do you see? Do you see the person within your body? Is this the same person you show to the rest of the world? And if not, why? At this very moment, you are already the whole person that you were meant to be, everything you need is within you. Believe in yourself, and do not allow the negative parts of this world to reside within you… for they are not of you.
Take a moment to reflect upon what wholeness means to you in your life.
Questions to consider:
Why might we limit our view of choosing integrity in our lives?
Why might we seek to gain wholeness through others?
What are some roadblocks to recognizing and accepting our wholeness within?
For further thought:
“The journey to wholeness requires that you look honestly, openly, and with courage into yourself, into the dynamics that lie behind what you feel, what you perceive, what you value, and how you act. It is a journey through your defenses and beyond so that you can experience consciously the nature of your personality, face what it has produced in your life, and choose to change that.” ~ Gary Zukav, The Seat of the Soul