“I told him I had once lost everything I had, too, and that I think that can be God’s way of building walls around us to force us to look up at Him.” ~ Kimberly Novosel, Loved …
The majority of us have experienced the agony and grief of a loss during the course of our lives. And when we suffer a loss, the most prevalent reaction is to build up walls around ourselves so as to protect us from further harm. But what we fail to realize is that we are also locking out all the potential good there is available to us in life as well, effectively creating more loss, more pain, and more hurting. And what Kimberly lovingly visualizes here is the image of us having nowhere left to turn but to where we needed to turn to all along… to God.
Often times, it takes hitting rock bottom for us to realize that much of the pain and suffering we are facing in life is a result of our actions and our attitudes–our building up walls to isolate and protect ourselves, our negative outlook on the situations and conditions we are faced with, our denial and our choices to continue on in the same path we are on thinking that things still might change. When we lock ourselves up, however, we also lock out the friendship, love, and affection others have to give to us. Sure, I may feel safer… but that feeling of faux safety comes at a cost, one that leaves me isolated and alone.
The walls we build in our lives prevent us from living our lives to the fullest–keeping the goodness from entering into our lives and removing our ability to positively affect the lives of others and to build up the world around us. Additionally, those very same walls keep all the negative things we are dealing with locked up inside us… festering, decaying, and robbing us of becoming the beautiful person we are capable of becoming. Be cautious of the walls you build around you… and if you someday find they have become too tall… then perhaps it is time to look up!
Find healing by opening up today.
Questions to consider:
Why do we build walls around ourselves? Are they as easy to bring down as they are to build up?
Who teaches us that such walls serve a beneficial purpose? Are those individuals truly happy in their lives?
Why might it take reaching rock bottom before we begin to evaluate the walls we have built as effective or destructive?
For further thought:
“The higher you build the walls around your heart, the harder you fall when someone tears them down.” ~ Unknown