“As you move into the day, be aware of how you treat yourself. As you shower or bathe, be aware of how you handle your body. Are you gentle? Or are you rough? As you eat your meals today, be aware of how much time, energy, and attention you give to nourishing yourself. When it comes to self-nurturing, are you attentively conscious? Are you unconsciously rushed? Be aware of what you do to and for yourself, because you set the standard for others.” ~ Iyanla Van Zant …
What an empowering concept–“I set the standard for how others treat me.” This means that I can increase the good and positive things that others do to me, and for me, simply by doing the same for myself first. And this only makes sense as everything else in our lives works the same way–when I give love I will receive more love in return, and when I show others compassion, concern, and respect they in turn will show me the same. And as creations of God, we all deserve the love that we are given, regardless of whether it came from others or ourselves.
So how do we go about effectively treating ourselves right? Iyanla gives a few good places to start–gentleness, proper nourishment, finding a healthy balance of our time and energy. It ultimately comes down to spending time getting to know and understand ourselves, so that we can receive the proper nourishment required in our lives. And this applies to all aspects of our lives–spiritual nourishment, emotional nourishment, physical nourishment, and intellectual nourishment.
By getting to know ourselves, we truly are doing the world a great favor, for we are enabling ourselves to approach the world from a position of wholeness and completeness. And once we are whole, we can serve to help others reach their own wholeness in life.
Our journey in life calls for us to discover and love ourselves. And as Jesus tells us below, without such knowledge and love, we will always be living in poverty. With it, however, we will possess enough riches for ourselves… and for all of those around us.
Take some time to gain a better understanding of your wants and your needs?
Questions to consider:
How much time do you spend really trying to get to know yourself better?
Why might others treat us better if we were to get to know, love, and trust ourselves fully?
How can not treating ourselves right lead to us living in a spiritual poverty? What other forms of poverty may it keep us in?
For further thought:
“If those who lead you say to you, “see, the Kingdom is in the sky,” then the birds of the sky will precede you. If they say to you, “It is in the sea,” then the fish will precede you. Rather, the Kingdom is inside of you, and it is outside of you. When you come to know yourselves, then you will become known, and you will realize that it is you who are the sons and daughters of the living Father. But if you will not know yourselves, you dwell in poverty and it is you who are that poverty.” ~ Jesus of Nazareth