“Be gentle with yourself. You’re doing the best you can. Breathe.. And be grateful for small blessings.” ~ Vicki Reece …
We often times hold ourselves to a higher standard than we hold others, perhaps because we are ultimately responsible for ourselves. We fall into the practice of imposing unrealistic expectations upon ourselves, and when we fail to meet those expectations, we become harsh and judgmental towards ourselves for coming up short.
“Be gentle with yourself,” as Vicki says, for you are doing the best you can. Life is filled with failure, and that can be a very good thing. Because failure means potential growth… it means becoming stronger than we were yesterday. And the failures that we are presented with, often times, are exactly what we need to get us moving in the right direction.
If we wish to be the best possible version of ourselves, and we wish to be able to be there for others in life and help them out to the utmost of our abilities, then we have to be honest with ourselves. That means looking at the whole of ourselves–the faults and the strengths, the successes and failures–and acknowledging all that we are truly capable of. We each have great potential. However, we must acknowledge it and cultivate it so that it might grow into a fruitful harvest.
Be proud of who you are today… both the strengths and weaknesses.
Questions to consider:
What things keep us from looking at ourselves honestly and being gentle with ourselves?
Why are some people unwilling or unable to look at themselves with honesty and respect?
Are you fully aware of your feelings and attitudes towards yourself, or are there any areas about yourself that you are perhaps unsure of?
For further thought:
“We usually look outside ourselves for heroes and teachers. It has not occurred to most people that they may already be the role model they seek. The wholeness they are looking for may be trapped within themselves by beliefs, attitudes, and self-doubt. But our wholeness exists in us now. Trapped though it may be, it can be called upon for guidance, direction, and most fundamentally, comfort. It can be remembered. Eventually we may come to live by it.” ~ Rachel Naomi Remen