“The capacity for getting along with our neighbor depends to a large extent on the capacity for getting along with ourselves. The self-respecting individuals will try to be as tolerant of their neighbor’s shortcomings as they are of their own.” ~ Eric Hoffer …
Do I ever find it difficult to get along with my neighbors? Perhaps I sometimes pass judgment on others without offering them the same benefits I offer myself. Or maybe I am intolerant of other ethnicities and races, or those who are different from me in some way, shape, or form. Our intolerance, disrespect, and inability to get along with others, ultimately comes from our own lack of self-respect–our inability to get along with ourselves.
This is a very interesting concept that generally holds true for all of life–our ability to love others is dependent upon our ability to love ourselves, our measure of happiness is directly proportional to the joy we bring to others, and our ability to get along with others starts with getting along with ourselves. The truth of it lies in our “capacity to positively affect the world around us.” When we are sick, it is very difficult for us to help others much less ourselves. But when we are healthy, we have the greatest ability to enact positive change in the world around us.
Treat yourself with dignity and respect. You are a beautiful creation of God, and deserve all of the same love and respect that every child of God is offered. And when you see that your reserves are full… show that same respect and dignity to everyone you meet.
Offer tolerance and respect to everyone you meet.
Questions to consider:
Do you treat yourself as well as you treat others?
Are you able to always get along with yourself? What are some of the difficulties of doing so?
What are some ways to build the friendship you have with yourself?
For further thought:
“Cooperativeness is not so much learning how to get along with others as taking the kinks out of ourselves, so that others can get along with us.” ~ Thomas S. Monson