“You can learn a line from a win and a book from a defeat.” ~Paul Brown …
Although winning is not everything… it sure does feel nice to experience victory and success from time to time. Yet victory cannot bring to us the same wealth of knowledge found in defeat. And when we look to learn, grow, and become better than we were previously, we can obtain “books” of additional information more from a single defeat–perhaps even more than all of our victories combined.
The majority of us tend to look at defeat as something terrible and perhaps even a permanent condition–it is not. It is absolutely ok to face defeat and failure in life, and doing so does not take away from who we are unless we allow it to. Still, it can be a difficult pill to swallow. And for me, playing on a football team certainly keeps me in a competitive mindset most of the time, which makes it harder to recognize the wealth of knowledge that can be found in defeat. Yet when I think of the times when I have learned the most about the weaknesses of my game, and about all the things I can improve at, when I had suffered a loss–my style of play, increasing my stamina, strength, and conditioning, better puck handling, increased speed and burst of skating, and on and on. It was in those times that I went home and really thought over what I did right… what I did wrong… and what I can do better next time.
We will be faced with defeats in life–for not everything we experience can be a “win.” But if we keep a winner’s attitude, and learn and grow into something greater than we were yesterday, then we really have not lost after all.
Reflect upon a recent defeat or failure you faced–what have or could you learn from it?
Questions to consider:
Do you view defeat as a potential “book” of knowledge for personal growth?
What are some things you can learn from a defeat that cannot necessarily be gained through victory?
In light of what value may be gained through a defeat… why do we still so oftenly place significance on winning?
For further thought:
“Life is truly known only to those who suffer, lose, endure adversity, and stumble from defeat to defeat.” ~Anais Nin