“We keep on forgiving not to absolve who have wronged us… but because the peace we grant them when we pardon… is what we give ourselves as well.” ~Mhey Espiritu …
Forgiveness truly is about peace… peace that we give and peace that we thereby create for ourselves. And although it is nearly impossible to forget many of the harmful things that others have done to us, or the hurtful times they have wronged us, it is well within our power and ability to forgive them. It simply requires a decision on our part to say, “I am not going to let the harm done to me from this individual live on in my thoughts and in my heart–I will choose to forgive them and end the hurting.”
The unfortunate truth is that we possess a much greater capacity to hurt ourselves than others do. And when we choose to not pardon others, we increase our anger and hate, we build upon our unhappiness and misery, and feed the negativity all around us. And the worst part about all of this, is that all of these things that we do to ourselves, are extremely unhealthy–spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically–and go on to harm us. A few long-term effects are increased stress, high blood pressure, ulcers, headaches, depression, and on and on.
The wrongs others have done to us that we refuse to pardon, truly are a poison to our mind, body, and soul. Make the effort to set others free from their guilt, as well as yourself. Doing so will grant peace to two souls who need not suffer the poisons of anger, guilt, and anxiety.
Forgive and move on today.
Questions to consider:
Are there any wrongs that others have done to you that you are holding onto at the moment? If so, why are you holding onto them?
What are some ways in which we make forgiveness difficult?
How can we make pardoning others easier?
For further thought:
“A good marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” ~Ruth Bell Graham