“All problems become smaller if you don’t dodge them, but confront them. Touch a thistle timidly, and it pricks you; grasp it boldly and its spines crumble.” ~William S. Halsey …
How often do we find ourselves avoiding conflict? How often do we share such misguided direction with others? If we live our life trying to avoid the common problems and the pitfalls that typically befall us–making as few mistakes as possible and trying to live our lives in a way that is as easy and trouble free as possible–we will find ourselves being “pricked” by the thistles of life. Sure life can cause us pain, discomfort, and even agony, but when we refuse to take on our problems and confront them with the determination to overcome them and grow, we allow them to grow.
William’s metaphor is a wonderful way of looking at the problems we face in life. True they may cause us pain or discomfort. But if we refuse to deal with them, they grow. And if we pull back at the slightest feeling of discomfort, we allow them to continue to control us.
Many individuals become disillusioned because they expect life to be easy and fun. Of course, problems become the bane of their existence, as they become dreadful of mistakes, unpleasantness, and difficulty. Those of us who are successful and thrive in life are the ones who confront their problems, the ones who “grasp them boldly” until their ability to cause us pain is diminished and gone.
Life will be filled with flowers… but it will also have its thistles. It is up to us to decide how we wish to deal with them when we encounter them: either timidly touching them and shirking away in pain, or confronting them boldly, and rendering them harmless in our grasp.
Confront all problems you are faced with today.
Questions to consider:
Why do we try to avoid the problems in our life?
Are you at your best when faced with adversity, or when the times are easy?
How can you ensure that you learn all that there is to learn from the difficulties in your life?
For further thought:
“I have always found that each step we take in life is to be regretted–if we once begin to wonder how many other steps might have been possible.” ~John Oliver Hobbes