“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ~Anais Nin …
It often seems that life occurs in cycles that somewhat resemble that of a flower. There is the growth, blossoming, and then the breakdown and passing away that ultimately leads back to further growth as the cycle resets. Of course, you can choose to try to go against this cycle in life, but if you do, as Anais points out here, there will come a time when it becomes more painful to “remain tight in a bud” than to allow yourself to grow.
We begin each chapter of our lives in a spirit of newness, perhaps with a bit of doubt and uncertainty. And with each new chapter we have new opportunities to grow and expand our reach, to strengthen our roots. We also have the ability to choose to fight this growth, however, it generally will happen to us whether we like it or not. I can try to be the child I was when I was young; however, the world will quickly show me that doing so is difficult, problematic, and painful.
When you left for College/Uni, when you moved to a new city, when you got married, when you decided to grow a family etc–all of these moments required risk on your part. Growth is only possible through taking risks and allowing ourselves to “blossom”. And in our journeys through life, if we do not allow ourselves such growth, we actually are setting ourselves up for much more difficulty and pain than if we had–we are essentially taking an even greater risk.
Let go of the past. Let it fade and fall to the ground like the petals of a flower. Experience the “seasons” of your life–enjoy the warm sun and the blossoms of “summer”, allow your past to fade away like leaves in the “fall”, learn from the harsh “winters” of suffering and loss, and then find growth in the newness of “spring”. Throughout our lives, we constantly have the opportunity to grow “taller” and “stronger”, but we have to be willing to take risks along the way.
Take a risk today that will help you achieve positive personal growth.
Questions to consider:
What are some moments in your life that required risk on your part for growth?
What kinds of risks have you taken recently?
What are some of the benefits of allowing yourself to grow? What are some of the benefits of pushing yourself further than you thought you could go?
For further thought:
“And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.” ~Erica Jong