“When push comes to shove, I’m going to figure out that this door needs to be pulled to be opened.” – Jarod Kintz …
Why not a little humor to get the point across? It sometimes seems that your ignorance and pride can have you pushing on doors that simply need pulling to be opened. For far too often in your life, you have found yourself missing out on opportunities to grow and learn, as a result of your preconceived notions or beliefs that you are unable to, or unwilling to, let go of. You may be right, or may often times be wrong, but if you always look at things from the perspective of “I am always right,” you will never grow beyond who you are now.
It may be true, that when “push comes to shove,” and the times get tough, you will figure out that you were wrong. But when you have the ability to listen to others, engage in productive discussions, work to increase your knowledge, and then make a smart decision… that is a silly belief for you to embrace. Moreover, by rejecting others who might have helpful ideas or who might make perfect friends who can help us to further ourselves in life, we set ourselves up to miss much of the beauty in life.
Take a moment to empty your mind today. Realize that you cannot possibly have all the answers in life, and that is ok. Be open to the knowledge and understanding of those around you. Perhaps we are mistaken; perhaps our beliefs have changed; perhaps if we look at things with more openness, we will realize how we truly feel now at this current moment in our lives.
Have an open-minded discussion with someone about something that you both do not necessarily agree on.
Questions to consider:
What kinds of beliefs do you hold most dearly?
Can you think of a belief or thought that you were sure was true, only to find out later that it was mistaken? What separates that particular belief from the others that you still hold on to?
How do you think you could best empty your own mind?
For further thought:
“It’s a fact–everyone is ignorant in some way or another. Ignorance is our deepest secret. And it is one of the scariest things out there, because those of us who are most ignorant are also the ones who often don’t know it or don’t want to admit it.
Here is a quick test:
If you have never changed your mind about some fundamental tenet of your belief, if you have never questioned the basics, and if you have no wish to do so, then you are likely ignorant.
Before it is too late, go out there and find someone who, in your opinion, believes, assumes, or considers certain things very strongly and very differently from you, and just have a basic honest conversation. It will do both of you good.”