“Everything in the world we want to do or get done, we must do with and through people. Every dollar we will ever earn must come from people. The person we love, and with whom we want to spend the rest of our life, is a human being with whom we must interact. Our children are individuals, each different from any other person who ever lived. And what affects them most is our attitude–the loving kindness they see and feel whenever we are around them. If you’ll begin to develop and maintain an attitude that says yes to life and the world, you’ll be astonished at the changes you’ll see.” – Earl Nightingale …
The interconnectedness of this world, and every person in it, is unceasingly evident in the countless interactions between each of us. Whether that is through financial transactions, our relationships with those we love, or our attitudes–which as Earl points out, affect others the most. To me, it is especially evident through the interactions I have with my children. When I project anger and stress, or when I fail to bring calmness and peace into a volatile situation, the negative effects that my attitude has on my children is easily apparent.
My attitude is my choice. Sure, I will have days where I am tired, sick, or perhaps sore. However, that does not have to affect the person that I am inside. Unfortunately, we often let our attitudes mirror our feelings. Perhaps this is a way for us to ask others for help, or for positive support in improving our attitudes. Yet most of the time, this attitude tends to have the opposite effect, and pushes others away from us.
You are not a victim of life. You have the power to choose who you are. Take up an attitude of “loving kindness” and see how it affects those around you. Earl is right, “you will be astonished at the changes you see.”
Choose a positive attitude today, and do not let anything bad that happens change it.
Questions to consider:
Think of the people you know who have the best attitudes. How consistent are they with those attitudes?
Do truly positive people allow their attitudes to change based on outward circumstances or happenings?
Can you think of a time when your day was ruined by something someone else did? Did your day have to end up that way?
For further thought:
“There is so much about my fate that I cannot control, but other things do fall under the jurisdiction. I can decide how I spend my time, whom I interact with, whom I share my body and life and money and energy with. I can select what I can read and eat and study. I can choose how I’m going to regard unfortunate circumstances in my life-whether I will see them as curses or opportunities. I can choose my words and the tone of voice in which I speak to others. And most of all, I can choose my thoughts.” – Elizabeth Gilbert