“Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.” – Nathaniel Hawthorne
I find it only natural to pursue happiness in life. After all, who does not want to be happy? And although there are some things that we can improve upon to increase the happiness in our lives–like our environments, our attitudes, our friends, and so on–happiness is not something that we must chase after like a butterfly. Happiness is something that often times simply happens upon us once we stop pursuing it.
As I mentioned earlier, when we expect happiness to come from things, or people, or situations, we set ourselves up for disappointment. It creates a dependency on them that, in the end, does more harm than benefit. And if we expect that happiness is something we can create with force, we will likely find ourselves wrapped up in disappointment as well.
The truth is that happiness comes to us through acceptance–when we stop trying to chase it and instead accept life for what it is. When we begin to accept the situations we are in as the way things are, we begin to see that our happiness is a product of our attitude. And if we have a positive one, and focus on living our life to the fullest, we will find ourselves much happier individuals.
Life is too short to expend all our energy chasing happiness, just as one would chase a butterfly. But if we sit down quietly, and trust life, we just may find that happiness has already landed upon us.
Do not seek out happiness today, but instead, try to be aware of its presence already in your life. Yes!
Questions to consider:
Do you ever find yourself trying to force happiness to come into your life? Does it help?
Can we ever really control life or any aspects of it?
Who are the happiest people that you know? How did they become happy?
For further thought:
“Everyone chases after happiness, not noticing that happiness is right at their heels.” – Bertolt Brecht