“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.” – Abraham Lincoln
Roses have always been one of my favorite flowers. Of course, when the thorns poke me, it can be quite painful. Still, those thorns should not detract from the beauty of the flower–the deep colors, the subtle sweet scent, and the intricate designs. Life is a lot like a rose… it has all the beauty and splendor one could imagine or ever want, but it also has thorns that may prick us and cause us pain. The question posed to us here is this: are we going to let the thorns detract from the beauty inherent in the rose? Will we rejoice in life in spite of the sufferings we may endure, or will we complain about those sufferings and allow them to detract from our experience in this life?
Many of us tend to be reactionary in life, perhaps as a result of how we were brought up or experiences that we have been through. As a result, we tend to feel that all of the conditions of our lives are subject to the winds of chance–if we are miserable, it was probably due to the way someone else treated us or something else that affected us. The reality, however, is that we control our own attitudes in life. We can establish our attitude each morning and then carry it with us throughout the day, sharing it with those with whom we interact. Everything we feel or do is a cause in which we can then choose to have a positive, or negative, corresponding effect.
I have a simple way of looking at how others treat me now–a person did something unpleasant to me either because they wanted to hurt me or because they were not aware that their action was hurtful. Likewise, when something else affects me negatively or causes me suffering, I try to look at it as an opportunity for growth. For it is only through trials that I can become greater than the person I was yesterday. My attitude in such situations makes a world of difference on my experience here each day of my life.
If we take control of our attitudes, as the positive grows beyond ourselves, we will be a person that others love to be around. Additionally, the positive we radiate to the world will shine back upon us, and we will find our own company to be enjoyable.
Choose to have a positive attitude for the entirety of today, and keep it.
Questions to consider:
How much of your attitude is determined by other’s actions, and your reactions to what they do?
Do you form your attitude about life based on your expectations of what life should be like? If so, what is the probable outcome of those expectations?
If you would like the world to treat you in a certain way, do you treat the world in that way?
For further thought:
“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.” – Mahatma Gandhi