“What we say and what we do ultimately come back to us, so let us own our responsibility, place it in our hands, and carry it with dignity and strength.” – Gloria Evangelina Anzaldua
At some point in our lives, we are each faced with the task of “growing up,” of accepting responsibility for our words and actions. I sometimes feel that people are much less aware of this fact of life, that things do come back to us, and instead, they attribute their problems elsewhere–to their environment, to others in their lives, to chance. Perhaps because it is a painful experience to see our own troubles and know that we alone are to blame.
Some people view this as an extension of Karma–that the type of person we are, the type of choices we make, come full circle in the end. I suppose the beauty of being aware of our own actions, though, is not in avoiding bad Karma–the beauty is that the more we own our responsibility, the easier and more natural it is to live up to it.
Personally, I have come to accept the responsibility of making sure that all that I say and do is something that I would actually want coming back to me. I view it as a part of the integrity of my character; after all, others base their views of me upon this criterion. Additionally, being able to accept this responsibility is a sign of wisdom and maturity–it is the point in which we come to terms with the realization that our decisions cause both our rewards and our consequences.
There is no substitute for us taking full responsibility for our own actions, words, and deeds. And as we do this more and more, and we begin to see how “what we say and do comes back to us,” it becomes much easier to make the right decisions when we are faced with them. It is a good idea to live up to our responsibilities and to carry them with dignity and strength–for we are responsible for our lives, and our ultimate success depends on the choices that we make.
Be conscious today of what you say and do–knowing full well that responsibility falls on you and you alone.
Questions to consider:
Why is it easy sometimes to say and do things without realizing that they will come back to us someday, somehow?
What does it mean to you to “own” your responsibility?
When was the last time that something that you said or did came back to you, in either a positive or negative way? How did that feel?
For further thought:
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” – Joan Didion