“I believe that in our constant search for security we can never gain any peace of mind until we are secure in our own soul.” – Margaret Chase Smith
The majority of us spend much of our lives searching for security. After all, we each were defenseless beings as infants and children, dependent upon our parents and the other adults in our lives for security. Therefore, in our search for security, it is natural that we initially look outside of ourselves at first. At what point, however, do we come to the realization that something like a sense of security could not, and should not, come from someone or something else?
Over the years, I have come to realize that security comes from within. And it has been my experience that in seeking it outside, I came to undermine my own feelings of self-reliance and self-respect. Furthermore, I tended to put an awful lot of pressure on others in my life, pressure they did not need or deserve. It is my belief that if we do not feel comfortable with who we are and what we do, we may try to find our security outside of ourselves, in our bank accounts, in other people, in our work, in the homes that we buy, in the material objects that fill those homes, in the bottom of a bottle.
Margaret tells us here that we find peace when we are “secure in our own soul.” But what does this mean? To me, it means to trust myself to do what is best for others as well as myself. To not allow the reactions, actions, and criticisms of others to affect my decisions about my life–to not allow things to affect how I feel about myself or how I treat others.
Society tells us to build up our security from the outside, and then to work on our inner sense of security. This is backwards, however, and instead we must make the transition from getting our sense of security from others to getting it from ourselves, for that is where the only true security comes from.
Set out to find security within yourself today.
Questions to consider:
From where do you get your strongest sense of security?
Why does our culture seem not to value the transition from depending on others to self-dependence? How much teaching do we receive on this aspect of our lives?
What does it mean to you to be “secure in your own soul?”
For further thought:
“There’s one form of security we can attain during our lives. It’s inner security–the kind that comes from courage, experience, and the ability and the willingness to learn, to grow, to attempt the unknown. Security isn’t what the wise person looks for; it’s opportunity. And once we begin looking for that, we find it on every side. You can measure opportunity with the same yardstick that measures the risk involved. They go together.” – Earl Nightingale