“The old woman I shall become will be quite different from the woman I am now. Another I is beginning.” – George Sand
This is an idea that frightens many of us. After all, we are quite comfortable being who we are–we know what we believe, what we like, what we do not like, how we react. And knowing those things is somewhat comfortable, even when those things may be negative and self-destructive. I have met many self-destructive people who refuse to change anything about themselves because they are so afraid of becoming someone else and losing the comfort they have grown fond of.
However, no matter who we are or what we do, another “I” can always be beginning. If we are open to learning and to change, then we can constantly be reinventing ourselves in ways that are positive and uplifting and that can make a major difference in our lives and in the lives of those we love. George says that “the old woman” she becomes will be different, but for me, I fully expect the me of one year from now to be significantly different from the me of today. Because today I learned a lot and tomorrow I will learn even more, and I truly hope to learn from those lessons and allow them to have a strong effect on me.
And this is one of the reasons I have a hard time understanding why people hold grudges–the someone who did something bad to me ten years ago is now a different person, or should be. So why be angry with that person, when it was a younger version of them who actually did what they did?
Challenge yourself to adopt new thoughts and ideas and ways of being. I still have a hard time not creating a mess downstairs in my hobby/work area, which is something that I have been trying to change. On the other hand, I am more accepting of my messiness, so in a way I am a different person after all. And if I want to die a wiser, more balanced, compassionate, and kinder person, then I really do need to start today and allow myself to look for, find, and accept positive changes in my life.
Find some areas for positive improvement in your life.
Questions to consider:
What is so frightening about changing who we are and what we think?
In what ways might we go about looking for and finding areas in our lives that are ripe for change?
Do you want to be exactly the way you are now when you are older?
For further thought:
“Development can indeed continue beyond childhood and youth, beyond the seventies. It can continue until the very end of life, given purposes that challenge and use our human abilities. . . . In sum, our development does not necessarily end at any age. We can continue to develop into our eighties, even to our nineties.” – Betty Friedan