“Make small commitments and keep them. Be a light, not a judge. Be a model, not a critic. Be part of the solution, not part of the problem.” – Stephen R. Covey
What do I choose to be? The answer to this question lies in the many small decisions that I make, day after day, the ones that determine just what kind of relationships I will have with other people. Will I be a light that shines for them in the dark, or will I be someone who brings them down and keeps them there in the dark? With each thing that I decide to say or do, I am forging the human being that I am; I am becoming either a light or a judge, a model or a critic.
What would you like me to be in your life? Would you like me to encourage you or discourage you? Would you like me to build you up or tear you down? Should I stand by you and your dreams, or should I criticize both until you give them up in shame or frustration?
The wonderful thing is, when you know what you would like me to be for you, then you also know what other people would like you to be for them. And you will have a guide for your decision-making when you are faced with reacting to someone else, a guide that will direct you with each decision that you make in life. If you want to be a light that shines for others, then you have to decide to be a light each time you are faced with difficult–or even easy– decisions. When you are dead and gone, do you want people to say “I used that person as a bad example, and did everything the opposite,” or do you want them to say that yours was a shining example, one that they try to emulate when they make their own decisions?
People need light… and you can provide light. It does not matter if it is the light of one small candle or a 5 million candlepower spotlight that can light up a house from 200 yards away. Light is light, and you can share yours and make this world a brighter place.
Questions to consider:
In what ways do you provide light for the world?
What kinds of things might prevent you from sharing your light and encouragement from the world?
What kinds of guides do you use in your decision-making processes?
For further thought:
“You are now at a crossroads. This is your opportunity to make the most important decision you will ever make. Forget your past. Who are you now? Who have you decided you really are now? Don’t think about who you have been. Who are you now? Who have you decided to become? Make this decision consciously. Make it carefully. Make it powerfully.” – Anthony Robbins